Your Gender is Valid

uniby Esperanza M

How you feel and how you choose to define and present yourself is valid. Do whatever you feel happy and comfortable doing. And if you don’t feel like labeling yourself or defining yourself, that’s valid as well. If you’re still figuring out what you are, that’s also valid, you’ll figure it out eventually, don’t be too hard on yourself. Just be yourself.

 

It’s Okay to be Girly

 

by Esperanza M

I often hear people saying some women aren’t good examples of strong women because they’re really shy, feminine and sensitive. And I just felt like I had to say this to all my cute feminine girls out there:

We live in a world where feminine things are valued less than masculine things, and even if we’re not completely aware of it, we notice it in some level and we learn it. We’re expected to be lady like, and at the same time we’re belittled when we act girly. Shy and sensitive women are perceived as weak. At some point we even start thinking girly women are somehow oppressed or aren’t strong, and in reality, it has nothing to do with it. You can be girly if you want to be, and that doesn’t make you less smart, less strong or less deserving of respect.