The prospect of losing my virginity made me feel physically sick with nerves. What if I did something wrong? What if I wasn’t ‘satisfactory?’ What if my boyfriend actually wasn’t sexually attracted to me at all? This nervousness was rooted in the fact that I didn’t have a boyfriend until I was nineteen. All of…
I recently came across a blog post on Tumblr wherein the author wrote about how sex-positivity is “not feminist” and how it inherently oppresses and exploits women who express their sexuality. To that, I respectfully disagree with a hearty “hell no.” When we, women who wear the feminist merit badge, say things like, “When women…
As a female raised on American soil but in the depths of Indian traditions, there are countless thoughts that haunt me daily about the life I’m expected to lead and the life I might have led alike. My parents aren’t your stereotypical Indian parents that force their kids to pursue a medical career, fill up…
I’m celebrating my 22nd birthday on July 23rd and I still haven’t achieved a major checkpoint in my adulthood: losing my virginity. I have not yet bow-chicka-wow-wowed because before this point in my life, I’ve overhyped my hymen. I’ve come to realize that it’s just sex. So, who cares if you value it or not?…
This was not what I had planned to do tonight, I promise you that. He was just giving me a ride home. We’re not dating. We used to date. I don’t think it was dating. We were going “steady” – I don’t know. We’re “friends” now, except “friends” don’t play with each others nipples, and…
Being a late bloomer is seen as a negative thing. Branded with the big old stamp of “Inexperienced,” I walk the imaginary catwalk into most bars with the fear that I will, yet again, have to tell a man I have not had sex. I usually get one of two reactions; they perk up with…
