You heard me. I don’t care about your penis. I haven’t looked at a recent picture of the cock outline in your pants or read any joke anyone has made about your junk.
I’m writing this because I think it’s shitty of you to exercise your right to say, “stop that!” without acknowledging those of us to whom nobody listens when we say the same thing. I’m talking about women.
I think Slate said it best: “Jon Hamm Is Being Treated Like an Actress. He Hates It.”
Yes. Jon Hamm, you’re going through the same thing your female counterparts are forced to endure, except with you, there’s a twist: when you ask people to stop, someone is listening to you. Someone stands up for you.
I mean, shit. Rolling Stone—a huge, reputable and powerful news organization—is covering your discomfort. They wrote about you being mad that people keep making dick jokes. Holy shit, man. Rolling Stone has your back. Nobody can touch you anymore.
Where is this protection for the women in Hollywood? Where is this protection for women in general?
Anne Hathaway went on the Today Show and gracefully expressed her opinion of paparazzi sticking their cameras up women’s skirts. She described it as “(commodifying) the sexuality of unwilling participants.” Who was there to back her up besides a few feminist bloggers and minor news organizations?
Who’s backing you up, Jon Hamm? Some of the most powerful news organizations in the world. Rolling Stone. ABC News. New York Daily News. Everyone can see the ethical issue behind disrespecting your penis. But respecting any part of any woman’s body, or a woman herself? Somehow nobody big is reporting on this.
And who backed up the dozens of other women whose vaginas were photographed during moments of vulnerability? Who had Lindsay Lohan’s back? Rihanna’s? Britney Spears’? Paris Hilton’s? I’d name some news organizations who helped them out, but I can’t; there weren’t any.
As a journalism student, I understand the uniqueness factor in stories; that is, when something rare happens, we tend to put more emphasis on it than something that happens frequently. It’s so infrequent that a man is over-sexualized that when this happened to you and you complained, everyone jumped at the chance to report on it.
Your reservations about being sexually harassed are validified by every major news organization because it is so rare that men are made uncomfortable as a result of having a body. You get protection that women do not because your story is so different and therefore is deemed newsworthy.
Women are sexually harassed so frequently that reporting on this every time it happens would get old quickly. Still, news organizations holding this viewpoint means that we ignore women saying they’re offended by being over-sexualized. This lends to everyone the idea that when something happens en masse, it’s totally fine.
It’s not fine.
It means that when a woman says, “stop objectifying me,” she is ignored; it means that while she does have a voice, nobody is listening to her; and it means that the mass sexual harassment of women will continue because nobody sees this as a problem. How could they see it as a problem if no news organization with a large following is reporting it as being a problem?
So, Mr. Hamm, I don’t care about the part of your body that you think everyone else is obsessing over. I care that you are afforded a privilege that women are not: validation when you say “no.” And I’m pissed.
If you get to stand up for yourself and get support for it, you need to think about the women around you who don’t get their backs covered from every angle when they ask people to stop taking pictures of their genitals. I’m sure a story about you standing up for women who are objectified by the media would get you just as much positive attention as you complaining about people making dick jokes about you.